May 1, 2017 I have a client who is lovely. She is 55 years old but looks 45 (which I rarely say!), extremely physically active, and has a smile for miles. I’m helping her manage her Match.com account—selecting men, helping
Why We Want the One Person We Can’t Have
March 31, 2017 The story often starts the same. You like someone. He or she likes you… maybe. You continue liking this person. This person stops liking you (or never did) and pulls back. You like this person more. This
#BachelorGirlsSoYoung
January 18, 2017 The Bachelor started back up a few weeks ago. Now, I didn’t start watching until two seasons ago, mainly because Ben Higgins was so darn cute, but every time a new season starts, I have mixed feelings
You’re Such a Liar!
December 14, 2016 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,
Don’t Get In Your Own Way
November 8, 2016 It’s easy to talk ourselves out of something, isn’t it? We usually do this when we don’t think things will go our way, so we “didn’t want it anyway.” About 10 years ago, when I was still working
Dating After Divorce: What You Need To Know
September 16, 2016 According to the American Psychological Association, in Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people get married by the time they turn 50 years old. 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the US, however, get
It’s Not the Medium; It’s the Person
August 18, 2016 It always starts the same: “I hate online dating.” Or, “I quit online dating.” Or, “I don’t believe in online dating.” I, of course, have to follow up half-heartedly with “why?” I say half-heartedly not because I’m
The Three Ways to Meet People
July 21, 2016 Sure—everyone wants that perfect “meet-cute.” You sit down next to each other on the airplane. Sparks fly. You talk the whole time about deep topics. You look into each other’s eyes. You exchange information. The rest is
A Date in the Hand…
April 27, 2016 Client 1 (Alicia): “I joined Match.com two weeks ago, and only creeps and weirdos have emailed me!” Erika: “That’s annoying! But you’re a great catch, so of course people are emailing you.” Alicia: “Yeah, but they’re not
Is Doing Your Due Diligence the New Normal?
August 10, 2015 In some ways, three years seems like no time, and in other ways, it seems like a lifetime ago. Just over three years ago, I wrote an article called To Google or Not to Google? That is the
Let’s Go Shopping… For a Date?
December 15, 2014 I mentioned once that I felt a bit like Carrie Bradshaw when I sat down to write my first ever dating column many years ago. Just as Carrie would have shopped for clothes on Sex and the
Is “Ghosting” the New Post-It Note?
November 6, 2014 In the days before texting and Tinder, there was actual talking and the art of the real, in-person conversation. Even on Sex and The City, when Berger broke up with Carrie on a (dare I say it?)
How Dating Deal Breakers Can Hinder Success
September 2, 2014 How many deal breakers is it appropriate to have when searching online for a partner? One, five, fifteen? There is no magic number, of course, and Patti Stanger of The Millionaire Matchmaker says that five is a
Is “Manning Up” the Answer?
June 23, 2014 There was a very popular post written the other day by a blogger named Matt Walsh called, Dear Single Dudes: It’s Time to Man Up. The gist of his article is that men are often commitment-phobic, and
The Bar Test
April 23, 2013 Have you ever wondered whether you made the right choice to be exclusive with someone? If you’re questioning things, then you have a few choices: You could write a pro/con list (though, this might be up
Extra cheese, please!
July 22, 2011 I’d like a large pie with extra cheese, mushrooms, sausage, and broccoli. But make sure the cheese is covering the whole pizza because I don’t like baldness, and actually, why don’t you hold the sausage? I’d