“What can I write in my profile to attract the kind of person I’m looking for?” This is a question I get from clients almost daily. In their mind, they have a target partner. Let’s say this “target” is a
What Can I Write to Attract a Quality Person?
“Why Can’t I Find a Man of My Caliber?”
July 3, 2020 I work with a lot of amazing, successful women. A lot. And I am constantly impressed by these women’s tenacity, drive, and achievements in life. Most have made their financial wealth on their own and are very
The “Talking-Phase” Turn-Offs
July 3, 2020 There’s an important period in a relationship that’s often overlooked in online dating: the point between finding an interesting profile and actually meeting in person. While there is an art to crafting an interesting opening message —
The Case for Crawling to the Altar
March 11, 2020 I got this text the other day from a 40-year-old male client of mine, someone I’ve been working with on and off over the last few years. It said, “I’ve been anxious to re-start dating (i.e. want
5 Reasons to Revamp Your Dating Strategy
February 14, 2020 On Valentine’s Day, many people reflect on the fact that they are single and don’t necessarily want to be. (Side note: Being single is MORE than okay… sprawl out in bed, watch what you want on TV,
Looking for “The One”? Try Dating NATO.
I recommend dating “not attached to outcome.” Not everyone will be compatible romantically, but does that mean that the whole experience was a waste of time? Of course not.
How Important is Height Really?
April 1, 2019 I have a Google Alert set to send me any articles where the phrase “online dating” appears. I usually get notifications about new apps that are trying to take market share (good luck), crazy people who send
Can We Apply the KonMarie Method to Relationships?
What if it’s time to let an old relationship go?
5 Steps to Dating Success in 2019
A new year is almost upon us. It’s a time for getting older, getting wiser, and getting… dates?
The Conflicting Incentives of Online Dating Sites
October 16, 2018 The founders of online dating sites like Match, JDate, and even Tinder (which is owned by Match) want you to use their sites to meet a significant other. Online dating makes it so much easier to connect
It Doesn’t Matter How You Met
April 12, 2018 Every year, I host a big Passover Seder, and this year it happened to be just a couple weeks ago, on March 30th. If you’re not familiar, Passover is the Jewish holiday that celebrates (with lots of
Dating in the #MeToo Movement
January 18, 2018 Now that some of the dust has settled (the key word being “some”), I’m going to give my take on the Aziz Ansari situation. Note that I actually wrote this on Monday evening, right after the story
Two Lies Don’t Make a Truth
July 5, 2017 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,
Your Dating Life is Not Only as Good as Your Last Date
May 1, 2017 I have a client who is lovely. She is 55 years old but looks 45 (which I rarely say!), extremely physically active, and has a smile for miles. I’m helping her manage her Match.com account—selecting men, helping
Why We Want the One Person We Can’t Have
March 31, 2017 The story often starts the same. You like someone. He or she likes you… maybe. You continue liking this person. This person stops liking you (or never did) and pulls back. You like this person more. This
#BachelorGirlsSoYoung
January 18, 2017 The Bachelor started back up a few weeks ago. Now, I didn’t start watching until two seasons ago, mainly because Ben Higgins was so darn cute, but every time a new season starts, I have mixed feelings
You’re Such a Liar!
December 14, 2016 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,
Don’t Get In Your Own Way
November 8, 2016 It’s easy to talk ourselves out of something, isn’t it? We usually do this when we don’t think things will go our way, so we “didn’t want it anyway.” About 10 years ago, when I was still working
Dating After Divorce: What You Need To Know
September 16, 2016 According to the American Psychological Association, in Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people get married by the time they turn 50 years old. 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the US, however, get
It’s Not the Medium; It’s the Person
August 18, 2016 It always starts the same: “I hate online dating.” Or, “I quit online dating.” Or, “I don’t believe in online dating.” I, of course, have to follow up half-heartedly with “why?” I say half-heartedly not because I’m
The Three Ways to Meet People
July 21, 2016 Sure—everyone wants that perfect “meet-cute.” You sit down next to each other on the airplane. Sparks fly. You talk the whole time about deep topics. You look into each other’s eyes. You exchange information. The rest is
A Date in the Hand…
April 27, 2016 Client 1 (Alicia): “I joined Match.com two weeks ago, and only creeps and weirdos have emailed me!” Erika: “That’s annoying! But you’re a great catch, so of course people are emailing you.” Alicia: “Yeah, but they’re not
Is Doing Your Due Diligence the New Normal?
August 10, 2015 In some ways, three years seems like no time, and in other ways, it seems like a lifetime ago. Just over three years ago, I wrote an article called To Google or Not to Google? That is the
Let’s Go Shopping… For a Date?
December 15, 2014 I mentioned once that I felt a bit like Carrie Bradshaw when I sat down to write my first ever dating column many years ago. Just as Carrie would have shopped for clothes on Sex and the
Is “Ghosting” the New Post-It Note?
November 6, 2014 In the days before texting and Tinder, there was actual talking and the art of the real, in-person conversation. Even on Sex and The City, when Berger broke up with Carrie on a (dare I say it?)