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Choosing your mate

What Can I Write to Attract a Quality Person?

What Can I Write to Attract a Quality Person?

“What can I write in my profile to attract the kind of person I’m looking for?” This is a question I get from clients almost daily. In their mind, they have a target partner. Let’s say this “target” is a

Erika January 27, 2021January 28, 2021 Choosing your mate 2 Comments Read more

“Why Can’t I Find a Man of My Caliber?”

“Why Can’t I Find a Man of My Caliber?”

July 3, 2020 I work with a lot of amazing, successful women. A lot. And I am constantly impressed by these women’s tenacity, drive, and achievements in life. Most have made their financial wealth on their own and are very

Erika July 3, 2020July 3, 2020 Choosing your mate 19 Comments Read more

The “Talking-Phase” Turn-Offs

The “Talking-Phase” Turn-Offs

July 3, 2020 There’s an important period in a relationship that’s often overlooked in online dating: the point between finding an interesting profile and actually meeting in person. While there is an art to crafting an interesting opening message —

Erika July 3, 2020July 3, 2020 Choosing your mate, Date etiquette, Dating Advice, First Date, Online dating tips 2 Comments Read more

The Case for Crawling to the Altar

The Case for Crawling to the Altar

March 11, 2020 I got this text the other day from a 40-year-old male client of mine, someone I’ve been working with on and off over the last few years. It said, “I’ve been anxious to re-start dating (i.e. want

Erika March 11, 2020March 11, 2020 Choosing your mate, Uncategorized No Comments Read more

5 Reasons to Revamp Your Dating Strategy

5 Reasons to Revamp Your Dating Strategy

February 14, 2020 On Valentine’s Day, many people reflect on the fact that they are single and don’t necessarily want to be. (Side note: Being single is MORE than okay… sprawl out in bed, watch what you want on TV,

Erika February 14, 2020February 14, 2020 Advice for friends of daters, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, Dating profile, Do's and Don'ts of Dating, How to meet people, Online dating tips No Comments Read more

Looking for “The One”? Try Dating NATO.

Looking for “The One”? Try Dating NATO.

I recommend dating “not attached to outcome.” Not everyone will be compatible romantically, but does that mean that the whole experience was a waste of time? Of course not.

Erika September 26, 2019September 27, 2019 Choosing your mate, First Date 1 Comment Read more

How Important is Height Really?

How Important is Height Really?

April 1, 2019 I have a Google Alert set to send me any articles where the phrase “online dating” appears. I usually get notifications about new apps that are trying to take market share (good luck), crazy people who send

Erika March 31, 2019April 1, 2019 Choosing your mate, Dating apps, Online dating trends 3 Comments Read more

Can We Apply the KonMarie Method to Relationships?

Can We Apply the KonMarie Method to Relationships?

What if it’s time to let an old relationship go?

Erika February 5, 2019February 6, 2019 Choosing your mate, How to meet people No Comments Read more

5 Steps to Dating Success in 2019

5 Steps to Dating Success in 2019

A new year is almost upon us. It’s a time for getting older, getting wiser, and getting… dates?

Erika December 28, 2018December 28, 2018 Choosing your mate, Date etiquette, Dating Advice, Dating apps, How to meet people 7 Comments Read more

The Conflicting Incentives of Online Dating Sites

October 16, 2018 The founders of online dating sites like Match, JDate, and even Tinder (which is owned by Match) want you to use their sites to meet a significant other. Online dating makes it so much easier to connect

Erika October 15, 2018October 15, 2018 Choosing your mate, Dating apps, Dating Sites 1 Comment Read more

It Doesn’t Matter How You Met

April 12, 2018  Every year, I host a big Passover Seder, and this year it happened to be just a couple weeks ago, on March 30th. If you’re not familiar, Passover is the Jewish holiday that celebrates (with lots of

Erika April 12, 2018May 8, 2018 Choosing your mate 4 Comments Read more

Dating in the #MeToo Movement

January 18, 2018 Now that some of the dust has settled (the key word being “some”), I’m going to give my take on the Aziz Ansari situation. Note that I actually wrote this on Monday evening, right after the story

Erika January 18, 2018January 18, 2018 Choosing your mate, Date etiquette, Dating Advice, Do's and Don'ts of Dating, First Date 4 Comments Read more

Two Lies Don’t Make a Truth

Two Lies Don’t Make a Truth

July 5, 2017 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch.  (As a side note,

Erika July 5, 2017July 5, 2017 Advice for friends of daters, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, Do's and Don'ts of Dating, How to meet people, Online dating tips, Uncategorized 2 Comments Read more

Your Dating Life is Not Only as Good as Your Last Date

May 1, 2017 I have a client who is lovely. She is 55 years old but looks 45 (which I rarely say!), extremely physically active, and has a smile for miles. I’m helping her manage her Match.com account—selecting men, helping

Erika May 1, 2017 Age and dating, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, First Date No Comments Read more

Why We Want the One Person We Can’t Have

March 31, 2017 The story often starts the same. You like someone. He or she likes you… maybe. You continue liking this person. This person stops liking you (or never did) and pulls back. You like this person more. This

Erika March 31, 2017March 31, 2017 Choosing your mate, Dating Advice 8 Comments Read more

#BachelorGirlsSoYoung

January 18, 2017 The Bachelor started back up a few weeks ago. Now, I didn’t start watching until two seasons ago, mainly because Ben Higgins was so darn cute, but every time a new season starts, I have mixed feelings

Erika January 17, 2017January 17, 2017 Age and dating, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice 2 Comments Read more

You’re Such a Liar!

December 14, 2016 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,

Erika December 10, 2016December 14, 2016 Advice for friends of daters, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, How to meet people 2 Comments Read more

Don’t Get In Your Own Way

November 8, 2016 It’s easy to talk ourselves out of something, isn’t it?  We usually do this when we don’t think things will go our way, so we “didn’t want it anyway.” About 10 years ago, when I was still working

Erika November 8, 2016 Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, First Date 2 Comments Read more

Dating After Divorce: What You Need To Know

September 16, 2016 According to the American Psychological Association, in Western cultures, more than 90 percent of people get married by the time they turn 50 years old.  40 to 50 percent of married couples in the US, however, get

Erika September 15, 2016September 16, 2016 Advice for friends of daters, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, First Date 1 Comment Read more

It’s Not the Medium; It’s the Person

It’s Not the Medium; It’s the Person

August 18, 2016 It always starts the same: “I hate online dating.”  Or, “I quit online dating.”  Or, “I don’t believe in online dating.” I, of course, have to follow up half-heartedly with “why?”  I say half-heartedly not because I’m

Erika August 18, 2016September 4, 2016 Advice for friends of daters, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, Online dating tips 4 Comments Read more

The Three Ways to Meet People

July 21, 2016 Sure—everyone wants that perfect “meet-cute.”  You sit down next to each other on the airplane.  Sparks fly.  You talk the whole time about deep topics.  You look into each other’s eyes.  You exchange information.  The rest is

Erika July 20, 2016July 20, 2016 Choosing your mate, How to meet people No Comments Read more

A Date in the Hand…

April 27, 2016 Client 1 (Alicia): “I joined Match.com two weeks ago, and only creeps and weirdos have emailed me!” Erika: “That’s annoying! But you’re a great catch, so of course people are emailing you.” Alicia: “Yeah, but they’re not

Erika May 27, 2016May 27, 2016 Advice for friends of daters, Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, Do's and Don'ts of Dating, First Date No Comments Read more

Is Doing Your Due Diligence the New Normal?

August 10, 2015 In some ways, three years seems like no time, and in other ways, it seems like a lifetime ago.  Just over three years ago, I wrote an article called To Google or Not to Google?  That is the

Erika August 10, 2015August 10, 2015 Choosing your mate, Dating Advice, Online dating tips 3 Comments Read more

Let’s Go Shopping… For a Date?

December 15, 2014 I mentioned once that I felt a bit like Carrie Bradshaw when I sat down to write my first ever dating column many years ago.  Just as Carrie would have shopped for clothes on Sex and the

Erika December 14, 2014 Choosing your mate, Dating Advice No Comments Read more

Is “Ghosting” the New Post-It Note?

November 6, 2014 In the days before texting and Tinder, there was actual talking and the art of the real, in-person conversation.  Even on Sex and The City, when Berger broke up with Carrie on a (dare I say it?)

Erika November 6, 2014 Choosing your mate, Date etiquette, Dating Advice 5 Comments Read more
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