Sometimes, someone calls you and starts to vent about something. Human nature (at least mine, and most people I know) is to jump to finding answers or solutions when, in fact, the person on the other end of the phone simply needs someone to just listen, sympathize, and commiserate.
“I Just Didn’t Feel the Connection”
Why is it that something that should seem so easy – telling someone you’re not interested – is so hard for many people? I get it – no one wants to hurt anyone’s feelings. So, I’m going to share a
A Virtual Date is Still a Date
The world has been massively disrupted by the coronavirus pandemic over the past 10 months, and the dating scene is no exception — ask anyone who has debated meeting for socially distanced drinks with a complete stranger. Although singles are getting
How Not To Ghost
September 4th, 2020 I got this question last week from a client: “I wanted to share the details about my date on Saturday. It was okay – nothing to write home about – just okay. He’s not someone I would
The “Talking-Phase” Turn-Offs
July 3, 2020 There’s an important period in a relationship that’s often overlooked in online dating: the point between finding an interesting profile and actually meeting in person. While there is an art to crafting an interesting opening message —
Do You Know Your Dating Lingo?
July 3, 2020 Anyone in the world of dating today, especially online and in apps, will tell you that there are a few words you may have to add to your vocabulary. By now, everyone knows about catfishing — pretending you’re
5 Steps to Dating Success in 2019
A new year is almost upon us. It’s a time for getting older, getting wiser, and getting… dates?
Chivalry vs. Equality in Dating
November 12, 2018 I was reading some comments on a dating article last week, and they highlighted a point that I already knew: In this day and age, there are two opposing forces—chivalry and equality. (Please note that in this
8 Things NOT To Do On a First Date
September 1, 2018 Having your phone out or texting someone else It’s rude—plain and simple. When you have your phone out, the other person assumes that you’re looking for better plans or would jump to leave at the first ding
Show Up or Show Yourself Out
June 20, 2018 It was 11 AM on a recent Sunday. My friend Stephanie was looking forward to meeting her date for brunch that they had scheduled over the dating app Bumble. She arrived on time, sat down at a
Dating in the #MeToo Movement
January 18, 2018 Now that some of the dust has settled (the key word being “some”), I’m going to give my take on the Aziz Ansari situation. Note that I actually wrote this on Monday evening, right after the story
One Small Step for Tinder. One Giant Leap for No One.
October 31, 2017 Ah, Tinder. Some love it. Some hate it. Some have no idea what to think about it. Tinder was at the forefront of apps of its kind, coming into the market in September of 2012. In the
The Alternative to Ghosting… Telling the Truth
March 14, 2017 Over the past few years, there’s been a lot of talk about ghosting, the one-sided act of ending a relationship without having the decency to tell the other person in the relationship that you’re ending it. It’s
The Golden Rule… of Dating
April 29, 2015 It’s funny how many people reference The Golden Rule in their online dating profiles: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” Okay, perhaps not too many people reference it on JDate or JSwipe considering
Is “Ghosting” the New Post-It Note?
November 6, 2014 In the days before texting and Tinder, there was actual talking and the art of the real, in-person conversation. Even on Sex and The City, when Berger broke up with Carrie on a (dare I say it?)
The Three-Day Rule or the Three-Hour Rule?
December 11, 2012 You go on a first date Tuesday night, and you think it went pretty well. In fact, you’re sure it went pretty well. I mean, why else would your prospective new lover constantly let his or
First Date Turn-offs
June 28, 2012 For National Etiquette Week back in May (who knew there was such a thing?), the dating site HowAboutWe reported on the “Top 10 Worst First Date No-Nos,” and what they found was spot-on. And as you’ll see
The Art of Letting People Down
January 31, 2012 The Scene: Your neighborhood wine bar, a first date from Match.com The Cast: Kathy, 39, avid runner and ice skater & Pete, 42, steak-lover and football fan The exit interview: Kathy – “He was just ok.
November 16, 2011 I have an app on my iPhone that tells me the keywords people use to get to my website. When I checked the list of keywords for the last month, the top 10 results (excluding the
The Modern-Day Dating Lemon Law
August 18, 2011 You’re on a date. It’s going just ok. Actually, no it’s not. You’re bored. He lied in his profile. Her jokes are offensive. You got into an argument over some spilled wine. He was rude to