October 16, 2018 The founders of online dating sites like Match, JDate, and even Tinder (which is owned by Match) want you to use their sites to meet a significant other. Online dating makes it so much easier to connect
8 Things NOT To Do On a First Date
September 1, 2018 Having your phone out or texting someone else It’s rude—plain and simple. When you have your phone out, the other person assumes that you’re looking for better plans or would jump to leave at the first ding
Women’s Top 5 Dating Pet Peeves
July 26, 2018 This article is for anyone trying to get a date with a woman. As a woman myself, and working with 65% female clients of all ages, I have some insider information on what women want when it
Show Up or Show Yourself Out
June 20, 2018 It was 11 AM on a recent Sunday. My friend Stephanie was looking forward to meeting her date for brunch that they had scheduled over the dating app Bumble. She arrived on time, sat down at a
Should We Swipe Right on Facebook Dating?
May 9, 2018 Last week, in a surprise announcement, Facebook made it known to the world that it would be entering the online dating game. While the timing was interesting—right after Mark Zuckerberg had to testify in front of Congress
It Doesn’t Matter How You Met
April 12, 2018 Every year, I host a big Passover Seder, and this year it happened to be just a couple weeks ago, on March 30th. If you’re not familiar, Passover is the Jewish holiday that celebrates (with lots of
The Art of the First Date
March 6, 2018 While a lot of the advice I give revolves around how to get the first date, even more important is how to nail that first date. First dates can be nerve-wracking, whether you’re a seasoned dater or
A Math Nerd Tackles Hinge and OkCupid
February 2, 2018 Hi, my name is Erika, and I’m a math nerd. Hi, my name is Erika, and I’m a dating coach. Yep, same person. The strangeness of my skillset is not lost on me. When feasible, I try
Posing This Simple Question to a First Date Will Doom Your Chances of a Second Date
January 18, 2018 I just read this article in Business Insider the other day called “Posing this simple question to a first date will help you decide if you have a future together.” As a dating coach who gives plenty
Dating in the #MeToo Movement
January 18, 2018 Now that some of the dust has settled (the key word being “some”), I’m going to give my take on the Aziz Ansari situation. Note that I actually wrote this on Monday evening, right after the story
OkCupid Has Identity Crisis
December 22, 2017 Over the years, I’ve been known as LovesLifeDC, SassyScotchLover, SmartNSassy, and SassClassWhisky. No, these aren’t nicknames I got from friends in college or at my first job. These were all of my usernames on the dating site
6 Reasons Why They Don’t Reply
December 12, 2017 This one is mainly for the ladies… You’re swiping through Bumble. You see a really cute guy (or gal). You swipe right. You match!! You message him (on Bumble, the woman has to write first)… only to
One Small Step for Tinder. One Giant Leap for No One.
October 31, 2017 Ah, Tinder. Some love it. Some hate it. Some have no idea what to think about it. Tinder was at the forefront of apps of its kind, coming into the market in September of 2012. In the
Eerie, Sexy, or Funny… What Your Costume Says About You
October 31, 2017 People often ask me what to wear on a first date. I give a few pieces of advice on this topic: – Wear clothes to match the venue. (As in, something casual at a coffee shop. Something
7 Things People Write in Their Profiles and What They Actually Mean
September 28, 2017 People write all kinds of things in their profiles because it’s what they think others want to hear. Let’s take a look at 7 of these and then define what they actually mean. 1. What you say:
Are the Dating Apps Effective Tools for Meeting Someone?
August 8, 2017 Despite the nuanced differences, all dating apps (Tinder, Bumble, Happn, The League, Coffee Meets Bagel, etc.) work similarly in that you look at a picture and you swipe left or right (not interested or interested, respectively) based
Are We Still On? Dating in the Time of Flakes.
July 20, 2017 I scheduled a coffee date for 1 PM Thursday with someone on Bumble. We arranged this through the dating app the night before around midnight, ending with, “I’ll see you then!” At 11 AM on Thursday, the
Two Lies Don’t Make a Truth
July 5, 2017 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,
Emojis and Online Dating: A Match Made in… Face with Rolling Eyes + Pile of Poo
June 6, 2017 I can’t lie—I’m a big fan of the emoji. If I’m talking about my propensity to make a pun in any and all situations, I’ll probably punctuate it with the “nerd face” emoji. Or, if I’m asking
Your Dating Life is Not Only as Good as Your Last Date
May 1, 2017 I have a client who is lovely. She is 55 years old but looks 45 (which I rarely say!), extremely physically active, and has a smile for miles. I’m helping her manage her Match.com account—selecting men, helping
Why We Want the One Person We Can’t Have
March 31, 2017 The story often starts the same. You like someone. He or she likes you… maybe. You continue liking this person. This person stops liking you (or never did) and pulls back. You like this person more. This
The Alternative to Ghosting… Telling the Truth
March 14, 2017 Over the past few years, there’s been a lot of talk about ghosting, the one-sided act of ending a relationship without having the decency to tell the other person in the relationship that you’re ending it. It’s
Dating Pointers in an Interview with 730DC
February 14, 2017 I was recently interviewed by a young professional publication in Washington, DC called 730DC. I realized, after reading the article, that much of the advice here is applicable not just to people in DC or to young professionals,
#BachelorGirlsSoYoung
January 18, 2017 The Bachelor started back up a few weeks ago. Now, I didn’t start watching until two seasons ago, mainly because Ben Higgins was so darn cute, but every time a new season starts, I have mixed feelings
You’re Such a Liar!
December 14, 2016 I had a date several years ago with someone I had met on an online dating site. He was handsome, witty, and intelligent—the trifecta in my book—so we decided to meet for brunch. (As a side note,