March 11, 2020 I got this text the other day from a 40-year-old male client of mine, someone I’ve been working with on and off over the last few years. It said, “I’ve been anxious to re-start dating (i.e. want
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I just got off the phone with a potential client. She’s in her mid-60s, lives in New York City, is accomplished, and wants to find a partner now that she’s been divorced for a number of years. All of this sounds par for the course in terms of my regular clientele. Most people I work with are in the same predicament: divorced or widowed and looking to spend the rest of their lives with a loving partner.
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Chivalry vs. Equality in Dating
November 12, 2018 I was reading some comments on a dating article last week, and they highlighted a point that I already knew: In this day and age, there are two opposing forces—chivalry and equality. (Please note that in this
This is How to Properly Plan a Date
October 16, 2018 I have an account on Instagram where I post dating messages. Sometimes they’re ones I’ve received myself, sometimes friends’ messages, clients’ messages, or messages submitted to me by other users of Instagram. The common theme of these
The Conflicting Incentives of Online Dating Sites
October 16, 2018 The founders of online dating sites like Match, JDate, and even Tinder (which is owned by Match) want you to use their sites to meet a significant other. Online dating makes it so much easier to connect
8 Things NOT To Do On a First Date
September 1, 2018 Having your phone out or texting someone else It’s rude—plain and simple. When you have your phone out, the other person assumes that you’re looking for better plans or would jump to leave at the first ding
Women’s Top 5 Dating Pet Peeves
July 26, 2018 This article is for anyone trying to get a date with a woman. As a woman myself, and working with 65% female clients of all ages, I have some insider information on what women want when it
Show Up or Show Yourself Out
June 20, 2018 It was 11 AM on a recent Sunday. My friend Stephanie was looking forward to meeting her date for brunch that they had scheduled over the dating app Bumble. She arrived on time, sat down at a
Should We Swipe Right on Facebook Dating?
May 9, 2018 Last week, in a surprise announcement, Facebook made it known to the world that it would be entering the online dating game. While the timing was interesting—right after Mark Zuckerberg had to testify in front of Congress
It Doesn’t Matter How You Met
April 12, 2018 Every year, I host a big Passover Seder, and this year it happened to be just a couple weeks ago, on March 30th. If you’re not familiar, Passover is the Jewish holiday that celebrates (with lots of
The Art of the First Date
March 6, 2018 While a lot of the advice I give revolves around how to get the first date, even more important is how to nail that first date. First dates can be nerve-wracking, whether you’re a seasoned dater or
A Math Nerd Tackles Hinge and OkCupid
February 2, 2018 Hi, my name is Erika, and I’m a math nerd. Hi, my name is Erika, and I’m a dating coach. Yep, same person. The strangeness of my skillset is not lost on me. When feasible, I try
Posing This Simple Question to a First Date Will Doom Your Chances of a Second Date
January 18, 2018 I just read this article in Business Insider the other day called “Posing this simple question to a first date will help you decide if you have a future together.” As a dating coach who gives plenty
Dating in the #MeToo Movement
January 18, 2018 Now that some of the dust has settled (the key word being “some”), I’m going to give my take on the Aziz Ansari situation. Note that I actually wrote this on Monday evening, right after the story
OkCupid Has Identity Crisis
December 22, 2017 Over the years, I’ve been known as LovesLifeDC, SassyScotchLover, SmartNSassy, and SassClassWhisky. No, these aren’t nicknames I got from friends in college or at my first job. These were all of my usernames on the dating site