Question: My extended family always asks me nosy questions around the holiday season. Is there a way I can tell them not to?
How do I tell my family to stop asking invasive questions?
Apply the Burnt Toast Theory to Online Dating — It May Save Your Sanity
You may have heard of the “burnt toast theory.” If you haven’t yet (or need a quick refresher), the idea is this: if you burned your toast while making breakfast, you need to spend another five or 10 minutes making
How Do I Tell the Person I’m Dating to Change?
As a dating coach, I sometimes have mixed feelings about what I learn in my job: On the one hand, I’m glad people feel comfortable enough with me to ask the questions they may not want to share broadly or
Should We Have “The Talk”? When? How?
Should We Have “The Talk”? When? How? Question: “I have been dating someone for three months, and we’re exclusive (not seeing other people). I’m ready to define the relationship (DTR) but don’t want to lose him if he’s not ready.
“Should sex with one person mean you stop going on dates with other people?”
“Should sex with one person mean you stop going on dates with other people?” This is a question someone asked me recently. In my line of work as a dating coach, things come up in all areas of the early
Navigating Modern Dating: Tips and Realities
As a dating coach, I’ve seen the landscape of modern dating evolve at a dizzying pace. From swiping right on Tinder to sending a Super Like on Bumble, the way we meet and connect with potential partners has dramatically changed.
Situationships… How and Why?
Ah, the situationship—the modern-day romantic limbo that leaves many of us scratching our heads, wondering, “What are we?” If you’ve ever found yourself in this ambiguous gray area, you’re not alone. Situationships have become increasingly common in today’s dating world
The Right (No Ambiguity, No Pressure) Way to Ask Someone Out on a Second Date
You’ve done the hard part. You’ve started a conversation with someone on an online dating app or website, you planned a meet-up, and you’ve had a successful first date. What’s next? Another hard part (in case you haven’t caught on…
5 Scripts to Have in Your Online Dating Arsenal — When to Use Them and Why They Work
Online dating can be a roller coaster — thrilling with your hands excitedly raised above your head at times, holding on for dear life at others. And while many think finding a potential match’s profile is the hard part, many know
5 Photos NOT to Post in Your Online Dating Profiles
What you write in your online dating profile requires careful thought — after all, it’s giving the reader (a potential match) the first impression of who you are and what you’re all about. But photos require an equal amount of attention,
The Two Components to Getting Over Someone
I was on the phone earlier today with a client who, unfortunately, is fresh out of a relationship and going through a breakup. She asked me, in no uncertain terms, “Can I speed up the healing process? How can I
How to Get Past Ghosting
I’m going to come right out and say it: ghosting hurts! If you’ve ever been ghosted—that heart-sinking feeling when someone you were connecting with or dating suddenly disappears without a trace—you’re not alone. Far from it. Ghosting can be hurtful
“I Can’t” Means “I Can’t” & “I Won’t” Means “I Won’t”
A client recently reached out to me to ask for advice on a dating situation. (This is not news… it’s my job!) After a “great” first date, the man told my client that he’d be interested in connecting again but noted that he was looking for “something casual” because he was recently divorced. She said that despite looking for a long-term relationship, she thought she was okay with something casual since she liked this guy and had other family-related responsibilities to take care of at the time.
Is Summer a Good Season for Dating? The Pros and Cons of Warm Weather Wooing
If you Google “best time to start a dating profile,” you’ll find no shortage of answers. Some are based on personal experiences and some are based on research or polls, but there is a wide range of answers. My thoughts? There are pros and cons to every season when it comes to dating — and summer is no exception.
Breaking Up Is Hard to Do
I got this question the other day:
“What’s your advice on getting back into the dating pool after a breakup? Is there a certain amount of time one should wait? Or, is it a case of getting back on the horse right after falling off? My heart was broken recently… and my friends are telling me to get back out there and date. My walls have been built back up again and I don’t know if I can date anyone right now. What would you recommend?”
How to Explain a Bad Date, With Help from Psychology
What went wrong on your last date? The way you answer could change everything about how you approach your next one.
An Outdated Profile May Make you Lose Out on a Date
Many years ago, I had a client who was on an online dating site, and someone she was interested in had a really cute picture of himself with a dog. So, when she reached out to him, she said, “What a cute pup! What’s his/her name?” The guy replied and, rather than being flattered that my client reached out, he instead accused her of stalking him: “How did you know I had a dog? Did you look me up? What else do you know about you?” She promptly wrote, “Look at your fourth picture.” End scene.
Is Paying for an Online Dating Site Worth It? Here’s What the Stats Say
It’s no secret that people are watching their wallets these days — and for good reason (if you’ve bought eggs or needed to fill your car with gas recently, you’ll know what I’m talking about). So it would make sense that many singles are sticking to free apps and websites when it comes to online dating. However, finding love might be worth investing in a premium service.
What Not to Write in Your Dating Profile: Turning Negative Statements into Positive Outlooks
As a dating coach, I’ve read a lot of online dating profiles… which also means that I’ve read a lot of bad dating profiles. There are many things that can turn me (and my clients) off to a person’s bio — from bad grammar to lack of photos to rants about politics — but perhaps the worst perpetrator is general negativity.
We Can’t Predict the Future, So Enjoy the Present
Rather than trying to predict the future and plan your course of action based on that fictitious future, instead, go into each situation on its own, open to any outcome.
Words of Wisdom for Dating in 2022
Words of wisdom for dating in 2022
How Not To Ghost
September 4th, 2020 I got this question last week from a client: “I wanted to share the details about my date on Saturday. It was okay – nothing to write home about – just okay. He’s not someone I would
The “Talking-Phase” Turn-Offs
July 3, 2020 There’s an important period in a relationship that’s often overlooked in online dating: the point between finding an interesting profile and actually meeting in person. While there is an art to crafting an interesting opening message —
Everything You Need to Know About Dating During Coronavirus
COVID-19 isolation, or social distancing, has two conflicting impacts on the dating world: 1) People are using the online dating sites more, and many sites have reported the surge in usage, but 2) People cannot go on actual, in-person dates right now. So how do you reconcile these two opposite things?
5 Reasons to Revamp Your Dating Strategy
February 14, 2020 On Valentine’s Day, many people reflect on the fact that they are single and don’t necessarily want to be. (Side note: Being single is MORE than okay… sprawl out in bed, watch what you want on TV,