What you write in your online dating profile requires careful thought — after all, it’s giving the reader (a potential match) the first impression of who you are and what you’re all about. But photos require an equal amount of attention,
I was on the phone earlier today with a client who, unfortunately, is fresh out of a relationship and going through a breakup. She asked me, in no uncertain terms, “Can I speed up the healing process? How can I
I’m going to come right out and say it: ghosting hurts! If you’ve ever been ghosted—that heart-sinking feeling when someone you were connecting with or dating suddenly disappears without a trace—you’re not alone. Far from it. Ghosting can be hurtful
A client recently reached out to me to ask for advice on a dating situation. (This is not news… it’s my job!) After a “great” first date, the man told my client that he’d be interested in connecting again but noted that he was looking for “something casual” because he was recently divorced. She said that despite looking for a long-term relationship, she thought she was okay with something casual since she liked this guy and had other family-related responsibilities to take care of at the time.
If you Google “best time to start a dating profile,” you’ll find no shortage of answers. Some are based on personal experiences and some are based on research or polls, but there is a wide range of answers. My thoughts? There are pros and cons to every season when it comes to dating — and summer is no exception.
I got this question the other day:
“What’s your advice on getting back into the dating pool after a breakup? Is there a certain amount of time one should wait? Or, is it a case of getting back on the horse right after falling off? My heart was broken recently… and my friends are telling me to get back out there and date. My walls have been built back up again and I don’t know if I can date anyone right now. What would you recommend?”
What went wrong on your last date? The way you answer could change everything about how you approach your next one.
Many years ago, I had a client who was on an online dating site, and someone she was interested in had a really cute picture of himself with a dog. So, when she reached out to him, she said, “What a cute pup! What’s his/her name?” The guy replied and, rather than being flattered that my client reached out, he instead accused her of stalking him: “How did you know I had a dog? Did you look me up? What else do you know about you?” She promptly wrote, “Look at your fourth picture.” End scene.
It’s no secret that people are watching their wallets these days — and for good reason (if you’ve bought eggs or needed to fill your car with gas recently, you’ll know what I’m talking about). So it would make sense that many singles are sticking to free apps and websites when it comes to online dating. However, finding love might be worth investing in a premium service.
As a dating coach, I’ve read a lot of online dating profiles… which also means that I’ve read a lot of bad dating profiles. There are many things that can turn me (and my clients) off to a person’s bio — from bad grammar to lack of photos to rants about politics — but perhaps the worst perpetrator is general negativity.
Rather than trying to predict the future and plan your course of action based on that fictitious future, instead, go into each situation on its own, open to any outcome.
December 26, 2021 A client sent me a text recently asking, “Can I ask you? Why am I still single? In your opinion? Maybe I’m not putting enough effort in? I want love to find me! Arghhh!” I actually get
Sometimes, someone calls you and starts to vent about something. Human nature (at least mine, and most people I know) is to jump to finding answers or solutions when, in fact, the person on the other end of the phone simply needs someone to just listen, sympathize, and commiserate.
February 14, 2020 On Valentine’s Day, many people reflect on the fact that they are single and don’t necessarily want to be. (Side note: Being single is MORE than okay… sprawl out in bed, watch what you want on TV,
June 23, 2016 Isn’t the point of going online to get offline? (No need to answer that. I think it’s pretty clear!) So many people ask me, “How do you just get offline?!” Or, “When is the appropriate time to
March 2, 2016 You haven’t written your online dating profile yet? As any intrusive relative (we all have them) would say, “You’re not getting any younger!” This is before the requisite pinch cheek, of course. When you’re ready to take the leap
September 22, 2014 Online dating has been around for a while now. In fact, Match.com first opened its proverbial doors back in 1993! As you may know, I was actually a very early adopter of online dating, using JDate back
April 24, 2014 Have you ever come across an online dating profile that you like, you want to send a message, and then you have a strong bout of writer’s block? It turns out you’re not alone. Many people have no
March 18, 2013 I’m smart, funny, and attractive. I’m humble, successful, and kind. I’m romantic, thoughtful, and trustworthy. I’m sexy, passionate, and fearless. I’m compassionate, honest, and friendly. How many times have we seen lines like these in online
February 14, 2013 Tips for creating an online dating profile that attracts the right people. It’s hard to write your online dating profile, isn’t it? Even if you’re a professional writer, when it comes to putting pen to paper
November 9, 2012 Have you ever read those profiles where the person sounds intelligent and generally interesting… until that fateful last line? I’ve seen them all: – Cowboys fans need not apply. – If you’re looking for a fling,
March 2, 2012 In online dating, making a good first impression is key. People can easily pass over your profile with the blink of an eye if they don’t immediately see something they like. A recent study actually confirmed
December 15, 2011 People join online dating sites for many reasons: To find an activity partner, a friend, a date, a long-term relationship, marriage, or marriage and children. Some sites (JDate being one of them) are even nice enough